The men in my office who say ‘everything is just fine’ are the ones with the worst relationships, the highest symptoms of anxiety, depression, and addictions, and have the least self-awareness of their path in life. Our society tells men to be strong, and emotional strength is equated with being emotionally impervious…. So what is there for men to talk about in therapy if acknowledging emotional struggle is akin to admitting weakness and failure?
As adult men we need to reclaim the definition of emotional strength as the willingness to be impacted by life and to express our emotional reality. This is how we unburden ourselves from emotional pain so we can actually be strong for our families and friends.